13 years
My gf problem
chubbyhoney wrote
How dramatic. I didn't say it was horrible to want to please your partner, that's ridiculous.
Putting someone's socks in the dryer is NOT the same as making serious, long-term changes to your body which can potentially have negative consequences. Not even close. Substantial weight gain is a serious business and there are risks involved. He wants to convince her to become a ssbbw purely to fulfil his sexual preferences (even though she's not a gainer) which would have a big impact on her life and mean she would have to make certain sacrifices. Now that is not even in the same league as wanting to make someone happy by cooking them a nice dinner or running a bath for them after a hard day at work. Let's not pretend otherwise or that what he's asking for is insignificant and consequence-free like putting their socks in the dryer. It is a very big ask and if he thinks she needs to be convinced to do it, then he shouldn't even go there.
Changing yourself to please someone else when you don't really want to is a guaranteed way to end up resentful of them. Would you all diet and exercise down to a size zero if your partner asked you to in order to please them, even if you didn't really want to?
How dramatic. I didn't say it was horrible to want to please your partner, that's ridiculous.
Putting someone's socks in the dryer is NOT the same as making serious, long-term changes to your body which can potentially have negative consequences. Not even close. Substantial weight gain is a serious business and there are risks involved. He wants to convince her to become a ssbbw purely to fulfil his sexual preferences (even though she's not a gainer) which would have a big impact on her life and mean she would have to make certain sacrifices. Now that is not even in the same league as wanting to make someone happy by cooking them a nice dinner or running a bath for them after a hard day at work. Let's not pretend otherwise or that what he's asking for is insignificant and consequence-free like putting their socks in the dryer. It is a very big ask and if he thinks she needs to be convinced to do it, then he shouldn't even go there.
Changing yourself to please someone else when you don't really want to is a guaranteed way to end up resentful of them. Would you all diet and exercise down to a size zero if your partner asked you to in order to please them, even if you didn't really want to?
Thanks for putting it into words.
13 years